You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice. ~ Bob Marley

How do you know if you are a mentally strong person?

Do you yell or become angry easily? Under the toughest circumstances, you can stay calm and handle things smoothly. By raising your voice, you believe you are adding to the problem. You can keep your calm while others around you are losing theirs.

While you aren’t afraid to give your opinion, you can take other’s opinions and feedback and accept both the negative and positive as long as you can learn from it.

You know the value of an apology. If you make a mistake and you recognize it, you can own up to it and know that you aren’t losing face, you are being the bigger person.

You can handle change and adapt to it. You know that change is a good thing. Staying the same doesn’t make you strong, it makes you….the same.  You need change to grow and change to become more than what you were.

You know that you can’t judge a book by its cover. You realize and accept that things aren’t always what they seem to be. You see an issue, a problem, a person if that be the case from all sides before you judge or draw a conclusion.

We sometimes feel that going the extra mile for a person means we deserve something in return. No…no we don’t. Going the extra mile for someone is often just that. You are doing something nice just because you can. Because you want to. End of point. I know someone loves a certain coffee and it’s hard to find. I found it by chance. I get it for them. End of story. I expect nothing in return but a Thank You. (this is an example, not a true story)

You have to let people know that there are limits in life and sometimes, even in the smallest ways, they get crossed. You have to let someone know when they cross those limits in a nice way. It’s not being a weak person by saying “no”; it’s being strong enough in the relationship/friendship to know that a “no” is a good thing.

Help, I need somebody. Help, I need someone. Hellllp. Okay, the Beatles can sue me for stealing that line. But we all need help from time to time. Even the strongest, most self-assured people I have in my life know that asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength in knowing we are struggling and we need someone to lean on.

You are a mentally strong person if you don’t need to rely on someone emotionally or just to get things done. If you can do then you are not a co-dependent person (*note: this is a huge area of my weakness).

You now that if you follow your instincts, you will gain from them. You know enough to trust your own judgment. You also know that if you can follow your instincts, you can learn to forgive yourself. Moving on is hard.You need to let go of mistakes and painful past. If you can learn to forgive yourself when you make a mistake (and if you need to apologize for that mistake…do it) and learn to leave the past where it is instead of dwelling on it.

Your mental strength comes from knowing you have limitations.  You have to set them, adhere to them and embrace them. This is who you are.

Knowing that conflict can be a good thing is a sign of a mentally strong person. If you hold a grudge, you are only hurting yourself. Grudges don’t solve anything and nothing can be gained from one. Find a solution instead.

Constructive criticism is one of my least favorite phrases. I heard it way too much growing up. But you have to learn to take negativity with a grain of salt. Hell, with the entire salt mine if needed. Don’t make assumptions without knowing all the facts before hand. Avoid believing in the negative things you’ve been told as often as you can.

15. You take negativity with a grain of salt.

You’ve hardly ever made assumptions without first being fully aware of the situation. You avoid believing in the negative stuff that you’ve been told, as much as you can.

Persistence pays off for the mentally strong person. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Willpower starts off letting us think we are in control, but that is for the short walk. To be persistent in life with our goals, we need to think of the long run. As long as you keep true to the course then you will find your way around anything in your way.

A mentally strong person can push themselves out of their comfort zone. It could be a simple thing to improve yourself. It could be something more fun like facing an irrational fear.  As long as you are willing to try new things outside of your comfort zone, you are mentally strong.



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